Ten things you DON’T need to buy for your new baby

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“How can one tiny baby possibly need all of this stuff?” It’s a question new parents usually ask themselves as they stock up with countless purchases to accommodate the arrival of their bundle of joy. Baby gear galore is marketed to inexperienced moms- and dads-to-be who simply want what’s best for their newborn — and if told an item is a ‘must-have,’ many add it to the nursery, which may already be overflowing with items that will end up being of little to no use. Let us help take some of the clutter out of baby’s homecoming. Here are 10 things that you DON’T need to buy for your new baby to welcome him into the world.

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1. Baby Wipe Warmer

Whether your green diaper changing regimen includes reusable cloth wipes, or moistened biodegradable wipes, a baby wipe warmer needn’t be on your list of purchases. If you’re worried about giving baby a chill, simply warm up the wipe between the palms of your hands before swiping it across his bottom. You may also opt to wrap baby in a cozy towel during diaper changes to keep him warm overall.

2. Diaper Pail

Imagine all of the large and clunky plastic diaper pails that will end up in a landfill once baby outgrows the diapering stage. Not to mention all of the plastic trash bag liners that go inside the diaper pail. Since there’s really no way to re-use a diaper pail after its intended purpose, make due without one. Take soiled diapers outside to your trashcan regularly to avoid household odors. If you still deem the stink collector a must-have, thoroughly wash and disinfect it when you’re finished with it, and research donating it to a shelter, daycare or Goodwill. You may also look into foregoing diapers entirely with the Elimination Communication method.

3. Changing Table

You don’t need to buy a separate piece of furniture dubbed a “changing table” to accommodate your baby during diaper changes. It’s easy to convert any dresser into a changing table by placing a changing pad that includes a safety strap on its level surface. You can also buy changing pads that will turn any nook in your home into an instant changing station. Just remember to never leave baby unattended during a diaper change.

5. Baby Laundry Detergent

Many companies now offer specialized baby laundry detergents, often at a higher price point. Unless your pediatrician recommends otherwise, you can typically use the same eco-friendly, non-toxic, dye- and fragrance-free, hypoallergenic detergent you’ve been using for your entire household to wash baby’s clothing and cloth diapers as well.

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5. Crib

If you’re planning on co-sleeping with your baby, buy a co-sleeper instead of a crib. Our baby ended up sleeping with us through infancy and then went straight into a ‘big girl’ bed. Her crib simply took up space and went unused. Discuss your sleeping arrangements beforehand, because a crib may not be something you need, even though it tops the list of newborn purchases!


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6. Toys/Videos/Stuffed Animals

The ultimate toy for a newborn? Your face and voice — which serve as the ultimate discovery zone and stimulating entertainment session for a newborn. Most new parents assume they need to find the latest and greatest educational toys and videos to turn their newborn into a genius, but the best way to engage and bond with your baby is to interact with him in an animated fashion. Read him The New York Times out loud over breakfast, sing to him, and involve him in your day-to-day activities by narrating what you’re doing. Of course, green toys are great for older babies, but during the newborn stage, they come in a distant second to your TLC.

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7. Fluffy Blankets

Blankets are by far one of the most popular baby gifts, but few are actually safe and appropriate for wrapping up baby. The soft, cushy factor that adults love about baby blankets pose a risk to sleeping babies due to their fluffy texture and their risk of overheating. Instead, opt for thin receiving blankets and swaddling blankets, like the one seen at the top of this post, and layer them over baby’s pajamas or clothing as the base for keeping them toasty.

8. Shoes

Babies have no real need for shoes until they start to stand, toddle and walk — then you can go crazy buying adorable kicks. But when they are tiny newborns, slip their cute little toes into socks to keep their feet warm. Hard-soled, restrictive shoes may actually impair the proper development of baby’s feet… so letting your little one walk in bare feet or soft-soled shoes or socks is healthier.

9. Fancy Designer Clothes

A few keepsake items of fancy clothing which may be handed down for generations are always fun to buy for a new baby. But resist the urge to go on an expensive shopping spree buying baby designer clothes that she’ll outgrow so quickly, and that will no doubt be subject to drool, spit-up, and diaper blowouts!

10. A Bigger House

You may look around your current living space and wonder where you’ll fit your baby and all his accouterments, but rest assured that he will fit into your abode seamlessly, because he takes up so little space! And now that you’ve read this, you’ll eliminate extra stuff, opening up even more room for baby in your home.

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50 Responses to “Ten things you DON’T need to buy for your new baby”

  1. Great post Beth! I wholeheartedly agree with almost everything on the list except the diaper pail – absolutely essential I think — and this is coming from someone who used 96% G-Diaper flushables and cloth diapers. For those other 4% stink-bombs, we needed a diaper pail. Also crib: on the fence about this one. We co-slept for the first 18 months and during the whole time I glared at my son’s pristine, untouched crib and thought ‘why did I buy you?’.

    Then my son started getting really active and kicky and wanting to get out of bed in the middle of the night, and we transitioned him to his crib. And now I love it and understand what it was all for…

    But some of the things on this list are really funny. I just went to a friends baby shower, and the still-in-utero tot received 15 pairs of shoes. FIFTEEN! That is more pairs of shoes than I have – for a newborn baby! I felt bad for my poor friend, who didn’t receive any practical gifts, just a lot of shoes and frilly dresses and baby bikinis. Yes, the baby-to-be also received more than one bikini. Who buys these things? I don’t think most of the gift-givers were moms…

  2. Beth Shea says:

    Thanks for weighing in, Jill. That is so funny about your friend’s shower. I think people do indeed get wrapped up in buying adorable baby stuff, but then it sadly gets little to no use! The best idea I heard lately for a shower gift was for the group to contribute to a birth or postpartum doula or prepared meal delivery or housecleaning once baby arrives. Talk about essentials!

    And we’re hoping baby #2 uses the crib. If not, it will officially have gone untouched! By the time Olivia consented to use the crib, she was too big for it and could climb right out! Hence, the big girl bed. 🙂

  3. Francia McCormack says:

    Great baby shower ideas. Less blankets more doulas and meals. I love your list, but I loved my baby wipe warmer for both my girls. Especially, in the winter, I felt changing time was a little less fussy and when I used the wipes to wipe their faces, etc…the warm always brought a smile. In the summer, I don’t use it. And I couldn’t live without the cribs. Everybody needs their own space at some point, I think. Cribs are my idea of everyone getting a good night’s sleep, safe and sound, esp. 8 – 24 months.

  4. Beth Shea says:

    Thanks, Francia. Good point about the wipe warmer… I just wonder if they could be warmed just as well between mama’s hands before applying them? Also, we slept better in a family bed because of our daughter’s reflux, we were always right there to help her when she choked during the night, and we rested assured knowing we could monitor her closely at all times. But I agree, under normal circumstances, it would be lovely for a baby to go into their crib and sleep soundly, giving everyone a much needed break!

  5. ana says:

    I agree with most things but really liked the crib ( and my daughter still asks to go on some of her younger friends ones to jump– she loved that!) There are several ones in the marked you can reuse after , we choose the ikea one that you can take the bars and it turns into a little kids bed. now that she’s almost 3 and number 2 is on the way we’ll get her a bigger bed and the cycle starts again (mind you that bed could still be used for a longer period)

  6. Geri says:

    I am loving the comments and discussions posted here.. V good perspective- inhabitots. I have a 6 weeks baby that we are still gettin to know.:)  Made the decision to co-sleep w her in our room w a bednest bassinet v early on at least til she outgrows it before moving her into her own nursery.  Having said that, she is sleeping on us in our bed rather than in her basinnet!!! given the winter cold here on oz.

    We also made the decision to not spend the time and efforts to do up her nursery yet til then? BUT grandma has already bought her unassembled crib from Ikea – not ex… Really basic- under 200.
    I think not rushin out of the door to buy everything like most new parents probably the best decision we made.
    I would definitely not b buying wipe warmers, change table and commercial type toys…and on hindsight- a big pram w a bassinet attachment that she refuses to sleep in whilst being pushed. O well…          

  7. saveatot says:


    Really like your website and your top 10 list of what NOT to buy. I agree with you on most of these items. Changing table is 1 not needed. Everyday there is at least 1 baby that falls from a changing table. There is a rule called the 3 foot 3 month. Basically falling from 3 feet or higher and 3m or younger can be a serious injury and thats the changing table. As a CPR instructor specializing in infants there are so many falls from this. Major fan of the Patem Pad.I would love to just coment on the co -sleeping. The safest way is not to have it in the bed with the couple but to have it next to your bed. Thats fine. To add to your list bumpers, quilts and positioners are all not worth the money. You will never use the quilt except for maybe tummy time, bumpers are not recomended anymore do to SIDS. Parents can use that money for other things. Also not recomended are positioners for the same reason suffocation. On firstcandel.org they show a very short video on safe sleep. Its great to check out.

    Look forward to reading more on your website


  8. cmiller says:

    the only reason I need a crib is so my toddler doesnt climb on the infant.

  9. scottb says:

    Hello –

    Useful article – thanks.

    Random question, but does anyone know where I can buy the green wrap that the baby at the top of this article is wearing?

    1st time dad to be – in 10 weeks. : )

  10. Beth Shea says:

    Hi Scott- Congrats on your baby on the way! Here is a link to more info on that cute swaddle- which you’ll definitely need!


  11. renami says:

    Love the article, very usefull! ! But I just don´t see how a co-sleeper is better than a crib about space and gets unused after some years. Also, I´d like to know how about the intimacy moments, with you share your bed with your baby? I really like the idea of sleeping together, but I´m not so sure about some things… thanks a lot and sorry my english!

  12. theirmomnwt says:

    I bought the wipes warmer between baby 1 and baby 2 and never regretted it – with a winter baby living in the far north even with the furnace up warm the house is cool – and with baby 1 the wipes needed to be warmed by me more often than I liked in the middle of the night. I had a change table for baby 1 but not baby 2 – instead we used the top of the dresser as a change table – all I wanted was to not be sitting on that cool floor.

  13. mydearbabyP says:

    I liked this list… but I feel like some of the things are needed. Our son was born in the dead of winter and here in the midwest that means it is COLD. My hands are always cold, and trying to warm a wipe in them was useless. We didn’t think a wipe warmer was needed… until our son screamed each time we changed his diaper. We broke down and bought a warmer, and it solved everything. We stopped using it after he was a year old, and donated it to our church’s nursery. We could not live without our diaper pail. We lived in an apartment his first year of life and things would have gotten pretty stinky without it. We feel that once we are finished with the pail… we will donate that to our church as well. We never used our son’s crib due to his acid reflux BUT it converted into a big bed, which we now use. His crib came with an attached changer. He has never come close to falling off the changer and I seriously cannot imagine changing him without it. We installed an over the toilet shelf right next to the changer and it holds everything we need for changing without having to leave our son’s sight. Plus, our son now knows what to expect when we change him in his “special place” and doesn’t put up a fight. When it is on the floor? Different story.
    One thing I was surprised that was NOT on this list was swaddlers. It is pictured on the front page and I seriously thought it was going to be on this list. Babies are so much more likely to roll when they are in those swaddlers. Our son rolled in his when he was 10 days old! Our pediatrician told us to get rid of them because of how unsafe they are (regardless of how “safe” the packaging says they are… babies can roll on their face and are unable to use their hands to lift themselves up) and purchase yards of flannel fabric. It was SO much cheaper than buying those cute blankets that simply weren’t long or wide enough to swaddle our 22 inch newborn (yes, he was huge). Save yourself some money and buy yards of fabric… you can get neutral colors and recycle them for the next baby! Plus, they will be big enough to severely reduce the chance of the baby rolling onto their face while swaddled.

  14. calebsmom says:

    I agree with only a few of these.

    …we used our wipe warmer as our little guy was born in december and hated everything cold. It saved a lot of time screaming.

    elimination communication??? Seriously??? Are we in a 3rd world country??? I’ll stick with my diaper pail for the disposables.

    Crib is not necessary as soon as baby is born but I didn’t want to, nor do I think it’s safe to co-sleep. …he slept in a bassinet in our room and at 5 months was transferred to a crib. I love waking up every morning refreshed without having had a baby kicking me in the face all night.

    You don’t need a changing table, but at 14 months I still use the dresser top with the changing table pad to change my child. Some people can use the floor, couch, lap, etc.. but we’ve trained squirmy baby to lay still on the changing table.. and it’s the only place he’ll do that.

    I use whatever is cheapest for laundry detergent with my husband and I as we don’t have sensitive skin. …I use expensive baby detergent for my child.

    I think this list would have been better suited if it had listed toys, blankets, tee pee tents, and a rocker. Our rocker didn’t get used until we moved him into his room.

  15. mcshoeluva says:

    I agree with most but shocked to see crib on this list. The pediatrician assured us their OWN crib was the safest place for our daughter to be. She hated her pack n play, so was in her own crib at 2 weeks old and sleeping through the night and for 8-9 hours at around 5 weeks old. I think a crib is a top priority!!

  16. angelasheartwork says:

    Totally agree with the changing table and the diaper pail. Note on the diaper pail – did you know that you are supposed to put all bowel movements in the toilet before throwing out the diaper? That cuts out the stink big time so why have a diaper pail? Just put the messy diaper in a plastic bag, knot it and toss. The majority of the smell should have been flushed anyways. Something I was unaware of until my son was almost 2, like most parents.

  17. karyn says:

    I agree with most…accept the crib. 3 kids…no co-sleeping in my house. The crib was a MUST. Although, the crib bedding (comforter and fancy bumper pad….not needed.

  18. NYC Mom says:

    This list is not applicable to everyone. It all depends where you live and what your lifestyle is. First and foremost, no crib? Are you kidding? This is insane! Crib is an absolute must for parents to have a life as a couple and for baby to be in his/her own space. A crib is highly important also when baby has older sibling, so the older brother/sister sees that the baby has not completely taken over the parents. I think it’s very important for everyone to have their own space to sleep. Diaper pail? I agree it might not be a must if you live in a big house in the suburb. But if you live in a city, in a walk up, you need a diaper pail. You can’t go down each and every time to put the diaper out and you can’t put it in a regular trash can. A diaper pail is highly important and if you’re conscious about the environment and don’t want to add up on the amount of plastic in landfill, then, use a steel diaper pail. Those are now more and more common on the market and they work so much better. A changing table? This is also part of the whole nursery and I think it’s good (not a must but definitely but not something that should go under “don’t need” ) to have so you have everything around you to change the baby properly and don’t have to carry the whole ordeal all over the house. Shoes, I definitely agree. Kids don’t need shoes until they walk. What’s the point. They’ll be stuck in shoes for the rest of their life, so for the first year, I’d recommend leaving those little feet alone. Wipe warmer, definitely not a must, but a nice thing to have. I love my wipe warmer when you have to change a diaper in the middle of the night. It makes the experience so much better for the baby and that way, he doesn’t start hating the whole diaper change routine.

  19. Lala says:

    I agree with all of these and find it interesting how varied the opinions are here. It all depends on your lifestyle. We lived in a small condo with DD#1 and used cloth diapers most of the time. I had a wetbag for the cloth, that were then washed every 2-3 days. If we used any disposables, they went straight in the trash, which was emptied every day or so when we went out of the building. Not a big deal and very little odor. She was a December baby in MN and still no wipes warmer. They can deal with a cool wipe- really! I would add to the list of thing you DON’T need- a bulky travel system. In most households, baby spends enough time in a car seat just going from point A to B. Why do you want to keep them in their seat any more? We never had a travel system and I certainly don’t want one for #2, which we are currently expecting. We used slings and an inexpensive umbrella stroller that traveled all over the world with us (literally). For shopping, museums, dinners out, she transferred from carseat to sling and was a happy, happy baby!

  20. Jessica4jc says:

    I agree with all of these and started out with most of them for our babys #1, 2 & 3, then sold most of them off to simplify after discovering how little a baby really needs, other than arms to hold, comfortable clothing, and a safe place to set them down when necessary (we just use the portable car seat or a bouncy seat). We love and have been so blessed to be a co-sleeping family. For those who are surprised about the “no crib” item on the list, please visit the mothering.com website for plenty of articles on scientific studies which show how co-sleeping can actually provide your infant with a safer nights sleep than being in a crib in a separate room, if done correctly, avoiding drugs/alcohol use, which alters a mother’s awareness of her baby while she’s sleeping. Also, co-sleeping does not have to affect intimacy w/ your spouse. It encourages creativity in marriage, and the baby can be temporarily moved or put to bed elsewhere when needed. My husband and I have generally chosen to be physically intimate in other parts of our house ;). Really, try thinking out of the box!!

  21. opheliaspins says:

    If you really want to be green, use cloth diapers!

  22. kms76 says:

    I have 2 kids and it’s been my experience, that yes you do need a crib. Maybe not a first, but if you want to keep your sanity a crib might be nice.

  23. itzbitz says:

    This was a nice list… but I have to disagree with a few of the things.. like a crib. It provides a safe place for baby to sleep. Co-sleeping is not recommended with newborns & actually, 1/3rd of deaths of infants are caused by co-sleeping within the first five months of babies life. Also with the wipe warmer, I LOVE mine, especially when baby is sleepy & it’s late at night.. it also helps with diaper rash. And toys? Toys help baby LEARN. Fine motor skills, entertainment, and especially the singing/animated ones. Black & white toys help develop babies senses, mostly their sight. It is proven to help in their development of seeing color & concentration. (all babies are born color blind at first) And lets face it, when you’re a new mom with plenty of chores and other kids to take care of, you cant use your face & hands to keep baby entertained 24/7. For when you’re cooking dinner, cleaning house, etc, toys are a nice thing for baby to learn & play with on their own. Bigger house, yeah okay if you already have a decent sized one to start… When I first found out I was pregnant we lived in a tiny 1 bedroom and if we had stayed there, I would have gone CRAZY. Things are much easier to keep clean & organized if everything actually has a place you can put it. As far as changing table, to some it is a necessity, I only have a tall dresser in babies room so we couldn’t use the top of that and I prefer to not get down on the ground to change baby on the floor every time. That gets painful in the first few weeks of baby being home! Let alone trying to get back up, haha. Anyways, I love our table & I never EVER step away while my baby is laying on it. What mother in their right mind would? Seriously? Keep everything you need to change a diaper close by.

  24. brittanie says:

    I disagree with alot of this list. my son has slept in his crib since 4 weeks and before that he slept in the bassinet attachment for his pack and play in our room. co-sleeping is VERY dangerous! you need fluffy blankets especially if you have a winter baby. i use my diaper pail and changing table everyday, and as far as toys go, my son loves his glow worm and he has a bear that says a little poem that has been putting him to sleep since he was in the hospital. so this list might be good for some people but every baby is different so find what works for you!!

  25. nanoregi says:

    Love your list, I made a similar one on my blog. We never used a crib, co-slept until age one then transitioned to a mattress on the floor. That’s still where my daughter sleeps. We used very little toys, and I hated all the blankets people got for my daughter. I needed two good blankets and some warm jammies. My daughter didn’t wear shoes until she started walking (and it snows where i live) she spent her first winter in feetie pajamas. I too do not understand why people buy a changing table when they need a dresser.

    To those of you bashing on co-sleeping. Educate yourself, it’s very safe when you follow the rules of co-sleeping. co-sleeping deaths are most often caused by those rules being bent or broken. I have had 2 friends loose babies to crib deaths, none to co-sleeping.

  26. dvbritt says:

    Most of the infant deaths in my area are due to infants sleeping with parents. The Office of Public Health BEGS people not to do this. If you’re saying that there’s a “co-sleeping” device that renders it safer, please share more information. We lose several babies a year here to this issue.

  27. ribtrotter says:

    i agree with it all but…..i totally encourage a crib! most parents don’t realize that they could get way better sleep with the baby not in bed with them! ya we’re all nervous about SIDS etc. but i think sleep deprived parents is no good! you can hear their breathing better with a baby monitor then when they’re next to you. im on my fourth and the last 2 slept through the night after 2 months or so. I don’t know about most parents but they sense you more when your right there..ok makes sense….but it keeps you and them awake more…especially if you’re nursing. it’s hard to have to take them back to their crib during the night but it’s so worth it. if they don’t learn to be in a separate room you’re stuck with a 2,3,4 yr old, etc.in bed with you. it’s not fun so don’t complain you don’t get any sleep. try it it works. they need their own space and so do you! obviously with all the safety precautions of their own room.

  28. Socalcde says:

    I’m very glad to see more conversation about the family bed and no cribs! (Or at least use the crib in the “sidecar” fashion.) Having a crib is not only an unnecessary expense that takes up space, but is not the healthiest scenario for the baby. Most cultures do not leave newborns and young babies by themselves and I find it to be a very strange practice that at some point became the norm in this country. Plus, when the baby sleeps with you there’s no getting up at night to feed because the baby is lying right beside you! I like this list because it reinforces the fact that all your baby really needs is you!

  29. Colauratura says:

    I live in a condo where trash pick up is only three times a week. We aren’t allowed, per condo association policy, to put our trash outside on our patio, neither in a bag nor in can. Plus, who wants to leave poopy diapers sitting in a plastic bag outside in the hot summer weather all weekend? Diaper pails are definitely a must for condo dwellers!

    Also, I found that our little one looses shoes a lot less than he does just wearing socks. So, we frequently put shoes on him when we are out and about and put him in a baby carrier. But that’s just us!

  30. Tesha says:

    I think a crib is so important. I had all three of my kids sleep in a bassinet by my bed (not in my bed-my hubby and I like to pretend we are trying for another baby) until 6 months and then moved them to the crib. With my son I didn’t have a wipe warmer and every time I cleaned him he peed. I bought a warmer before 6 months and we had no more fountains. I had a changing table but changed them just as much on the couch. I used a diaper pail for all 3 kids but I don’t plan on it with this one. I agree to most of these things. I guess my opinion is don’t buy these things at first just to figure out what you can’t deal with. For example if you can’t stand the smell of the stinky diaper in the trash then go buy a diaper pail. I didn’t buy bottles until my last baby was 6 months old because I breast fed. I am a stay at home mom and didn’t need them and I couldn’t stand to leave her until then.

  31. S.Kerfont says:

    I saw plenty of diaper pails in stores that have outrageous claims about containing odors, but they all needed ridiculously expensive bag inserts, so I didn’t bother and went out and got a 77L plain boring garbage can with a locking lid (two hinges on the bucket flip up to clamp the lid down tight) it sits right next to the couch and the only time I smell anything is the few seconds I have it open. What odor that does leak out dissipates quickly like a baby fart.

    never saw the need for a wipe warmer either, running it under hot water works fine when needed.

  32. iloveyoutons1718 says:

    unless you want to take the risk of your baby dieing from SIDS, you need a crib. Co-sleeping is the biggest cause of that, I dont know who would go without a crib for their child.

  33. phill1rm says:

    Although I agree with most of the items on this list, I have to disagree with two of them. A crib (or pack ‘n play) is the safest place for your baby to sleep. You can always place the crib in your bedroom, to keep a closer eye and ear on your little one. For those who use disposable diapers, a diaper pail is very handy!

    I would replace the aforementioned items with bumper pads and bedding sets (sheets, comforter, pillows, crib skirts, etc.). Similiar to the blankets mentioned in the article, these are both a waste of money and a hazard to your baby!! The only thing that should be in an infant’s crib is him/her and a fitted sheet. You can wrap your baby in a receiving blanket or use a sleepsack, but loose the fluffy items that could suffocate your baby.

  34. KaidenceMommy says:

    what about pack and play type thing instead of a crib ? is that okay to do ? I don’t want to co-sleep but also don’t have the money to spend on a crib & mattress and everything else to go with it…

  35. lcl04 says:

    I don’t have a baby but i do have a diaper pail. i store it out side on my back patio and use it for poop bags from my dog and litter waste from my cat. so if anyone has already purchased a diaper pail it is not a total waste after the baby is out of diapers.

  36. Danis John says:

    I like your all suggestions and vital information because cleanness is determine a good health for your baby as well as all so here is lot of information about cleaning so keep it up please!

  37. elainejd says:

    Great post i needed to read this 3 years ago. I had my daughter at 47 and had not really been around children let alone baby. My best friend helped me set up y baby registry. Her son at the time was 23. Baby things had changed a lot since then.

  38. deannaj says:

    I really like the overall idea of this article – the idea that you don’t need to go out and just buy everything they sell at Babies R Us – that being said – I have 5 kids and have found that each one was different – Some were climbing out of the crib at 9 months old and I wondered why i bothered with it – on the other hand I have a 2 year old who LOVES his crib and is still sleeping in it – I think ultimately the point of this should be to look at your lifestyle and see what works for you – in Texas with 3 of our kids we would have never bothered with a wipes warmer – now that we live further north, it looks less ridiculous! Don’t just buy stuff because it’s out there – but it because you need it – if you use a crib – great, then it’s worth the money – if you wouldn’t use it – obviously don’t spend the money on it – every parent/child relationship is different, and at different points in your life different things are more/less necessary. One thing I agree wholeheartedly with is the idea that a diaper pail isn’t necessary – at least one of the fancy – expensive ones with expensive liners – we have a cheap lidded garbage can that uses garbage bags and it works well for us – so I guess I’m also saying just because it looks fancy and nice, doesn’t mean it’s actually any better!

  39. osman ali says:

    Not to mention all of the plastic trash bag liners that go inside the diaper pail. Since there’s really no way to re-use a diaper pail after its intended purpose

  40. katerina says:

    hi all, Iam a first time mom to be and have a question… is co sleeping dangerous even if the baby sleeps in a nest for newborns?

  41. chellyray1 says:

    i totally agree with this article. we have not used a crib at all. wipe warmer, stupid. what do you do when you are out and need to change them they arent going to have warm wipes then. toys, babies dont need toys. they dont even wear through most of the clothes they have before they out grow them. they cant walk, why do they need shoes. the diaper pail, disgusting. ours go in the trash and the trash is taken out daily. they dont sit around to stink every thing up. you open a diaper pail to put another one in it, and you get hit with week old poop smell. we have never had a problem with changing the kids on the floor or where ever. it makes it easier for them to get back to what ever they were doing. the bigger house, well if you dont buy all the stuff you dont need the baby isnt going to take up the whole place.

  42. mammasmilks says:

    The article has truly peaked my interest. I’m going to take a note of your blog and keep checking for new details about once per week. I subscribed to your RSS feed too.

  43. Curlytexan says:

    We have two kids (four years and five months) and used a wipes warmer with the first until it burned out, we parents even used it. We didn’t get one to start with with our second, since they can be expensive, but with two weeks of screaming at every change, we gave in. Now she is always happy when changing. With our first, my parents bought us a crib changer combo, big, giant really but is nice since it converts to toddler then to full with a night stand. I like it when we have the room for it but we first used a half sized travel crib we use as a bassinet. Now we have the travel crib in the living room for naps and crib in our room for night. She started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and I think the distinction has something to do with it. I think another thing to put on the don’t need to buy list is a rocker/glider. We ended up putting ours in the garage to have more space in our rooms. For toys I’d like to add teethers. Not every baby will want or need them. Our first got all her teeth by age one and we didn’t notice since she never complained. Our second has an elephant made of terry cloth with a soft rubber ring and it really helps her, she does need it. Just don’t buy any of that until you know for sure. Getting it as a gift is different though.

  44. Basil1234 says:

    A #1 that should be on the list is the comforter sets that come with the sheets and number and curtains. I use the comforter only since my son turned about 2 and put the bumper then too on only because I had it (so his toys don’t slip down, not bc of him bumping his head). Completely a waste of money!

  45. BabyRN says:

    Co sleeping is not recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics! Very Dangerous!

  46. AdamEve135 says:

    I agree about the fluffy blankets. As for the swaddling blankets they are really useful, but not the ones that resemble sleeping bags. These are quickly outgrown and then you can just throw them away. My son is 3 years old now, but I still use his thin square muslin swaddling blankets around the house on every day tasks like drying my dishes for example. And in the Summer I lay one of these over his car seat. My advice is, think practical and buy things that you can use for a long time, not just a few months. Our swaddle blankets resemble the ones on this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxocU9DdlAU

  47. Aetheria says:

    You say take the diapers out to the trash, so I guess you must mean disposable diapers. Anyone who doesn’t want to fill up landfills isn’t going to be using those. Imagine the vol. of however many yrs of diapers (these days, a lot of people are producing 3 & even 4 yrs’ worth of such waste) compared to the vol. of one diaper pail likely used for more than one child. And when the baby is a newborn, & you’re changing diapers round the clock every couple of hrs, it would be absurd to go all the way outside, esp. in cold weather, each time. We used cloth diapers most of the time & had a diaper pail (original Diaper Champ). It used standard kitchen-trash-bags. There was never a smell except when emptying it, every other day, not after a wk like someone mentioned. We moved & prob. lost the diaper pail then & they don’t make it anymore, so this time will just use reusable waterproof bags. Cloth diapers always now, too.

    And E.C. doesn’t necessarily work. I tried it & just got peed on a lot. What did work was putting the baby on the baby-potty at least several times a day, as soon as she was able to sit, giving her a toy & reading her a story, & praising her when she happened to use the potty. Very soon she understood what to do. Perfection took a long time (until 2 maybe for day & night both?), but there were a LOT fewer diapers to change & she enjoyed potty-training.

    I agree with most of the list though, esp. crib, also with the suggestions of ‘travel system’ & rocker. My baby needed me to hold her practically all day & night, so was always either in the bed with me or carried around by me. Things were easy as soon as I figured that out. No need for gimmicks or extra ‘gear’. This time I do want to get a sling though, just because I have arthritis now. Still minimalistic.

    People have said co-sleeping is dangerous, but it depends on the place & the mother’s habits. If you smoke at all, take a drug or medicine that could make you sleep deeply, drink before bed, forgo breastfeeding (or wean baby rather than let it wean itself), have pillows or blankets or the like where they can get near the baby’s face, use a soft mattress, put the baby face-down, or sleep not on an ordinary bed, you MAKE it dangerous. Having the baby in a crib in a separate rm makes it dangerous too: SIDS was first called crib- or cot-death because that’s where it was discovered to take place. Furthermore, getting my baby to sleep in a crib (even with the side off, crib & bed pressed together, with my arm around her) was impossible, so I was so sleep-deprived when I tried that, I started to fall asleep in the day while holding her & NEARLY DROPPED HER. Right away I switched to having her in the bed, using the safe method, & everything was perfect after that. If you read the research of Dr. James McKenna from Notre Dame you can find scientific info. on co-sleeping.

  48. LisaLewisMD says:

    I just stumbled across this post and also pinned it. Great tip! Some people love cribs and prefer not to co-sleep, but these days many parents have a co-sleeper attached to the bed or bassinet. We hardly EVER used our crib. OK, maybe once to get a picture. And YES to the dye-free, perfume free detergent. There’s too many baby products with perfume (a skin irritant!) Cheers!

  49. medkate says:

    A crib is absolutely essential if you have twins. At first we only had one crib and they both slept together inside. But then around 4 months they started getting really active so they each got their own crib. There are tons of other things (not on your list) that we never purchased and people look at us funny : bottle warmer (I only ever served them breast milk or room temp formula), baby monitor (is your house so big or your parties so loud that you will not hear your baby???) and night lights (it’s dark in the womb, babies don’t need night lights).

  50. Ykay says:

    I can’t fully agree on the diaper pail, crib, or wipe warmers. It would take me forever to warm up the wipes between my hands especially because my hands are always cold, plus when you’re in the middle of changing the baby no one has time to try and warm them up. Diaper pails come in handy as well. Cribs depend on your lifestyle, not everyone can cosleep.

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