Should vegetarian parents raise vegetarian children? As a longtime vegetarian—except for a brief lull during my pregnancy (blame my mother)—it’s one of the major questions I’m personally facing. (A recent story in the Los Angeles Times about food being a source of stress and strife for carrot-crunching children only increased my ambivalence.) Vegetarianism, or veganism for that matter, is a personal choice—should I be making my daughter’s choice for her before she can even speak? Will I be depriving her of vital nutrients she needs for her developing brain and body? I decided to turn to my favorite resource for assistance: my fellow moms, all of whom present a different case for the food choices they’ve made: Abigail and her twin sons are omnivores, Beth and her daughter are vegetarians, and Jill and her son are vegans.
Living Responsibly as an Omnivore by Abigail Doan
Omnivore is perhaps too broad a definition to describe my family’s dietary guidelines, but on most occasions we opt for the freshest vegetables, fruits, dairy, grains, fish, and meats available. I have, in years past, lived as a strict vegetarian and a macrobiotic, but I somehow felt as a new parent that it was my responsibility to introduce my babies to a vast cornucopia of foods as they began their lives and developed a like or dislike for certain foods.
My husband and I have made a commitment to always shop for the freshest ingredients available and also make it a practice to buy locally and seasonally as much as possible. I grew up on a small dairy and sheep farm where we milked and annually slaughtered our own grass fed, rotationally grazed animals, so my outlook on incorporating dairy and meat into a regular diet was obviously informed by this homegrown experience. My husband grew up in Europe where he was accustomed to eating very well and, of course, enjoyed home-cooked meals that his Italian mother treated the entire family to.
I think that the most important thing to relay and share with your children in terms of their relationship with food and the world at large is an understanding of balance. Being aware of where your daily food comes from is also vitally important as well as acknowledging the resources that were required for growing, producing, harvesting, and transporting these goods. I have made it a habit, when traveling, to try to eat as the locals do. Eating indigenously is typically a way of ingesting the right foods for the right climate. When in Nepal and Bhutan years ago, I opted to eat grilled meats and drink butter tea, something I would not do while living in the States on a vegetarian diet. I also abide by the rule that it is better to celebrate local customs when on the road than trying to impose your own regime and strict beliefs.
I also think that mealtime should be celebrated as an occasion to create community and also talk about what is presented on one’s plate and the bounty being shared. We always try to eat dinner with our toddlers and introduce them to new foods by eating some ourselves and then offering them a bite. I would prefer that they have a healthy understanding of what constitutes quality nutrition when it comes to their diet than my being dictatorial at this stage about what they can and cannot eat. That said, I think that it is the parent’s responsibility to do proper research on where meats, poultry, fish, and dairy are sourced from and how the animals are treated. There are no shortcuts on this front, and I would prefer to eat less meat, etc. for a higher quality (ethical) product, i.e. one that I can trust and responsibly share with my family.
Raising a Child as a Vegetarian by Beth Shea
I have been a vegetarian for a decade, a choice I made out of a deep emotional concern for and love of animals. I do not agree with they way the vast majority of animals being bred for meat are being slaughtered for human consumption — and additionally, eating meat is decidedly bad for the planet.
Until a week ago, my family was divided on the meat-eating front. My husband was raised by a vegetarian mother, but opted to consume meat throughout his life. However, when our daughter was born, it didn’t even dawn on us to start feeding her meat. We concluded that the amount of research required and monetary expense that went along with finding and purchasing responsibly raised and farmed top quality meats, poultry and safe seafood was a signal to not take her down the path to eating animals. If it required that much footwork, these foods didn’t seem like they should be a part of her diet — we prefer to feed her foods that we know for a fact are safe and responsibly farmed.
As an interesting side note, my 2 year old daughter has a play kitchen that somehow got peppered with her animal magnets. She began to serve up cows and chickens on her tiny play plates as a joke, handing them to me and then giggling, “we don’t eat ANIMALS mommy!” As if the concept was so foreign it was laughable. I don’t even think she would choose of her own accord to eat chicken, meat or fish if we offered it to her, as she has such a deep affinity for animals. Instead, we feed her all organic fruits and vegetables and whole grains, which we purchase from local sources.
Last week, my husband watched the films, The Cove and Food Inc. After learning what he did about the food industry in Food Inc., and then witnessing the brutal slaughtering of dolphins in The Cove, he declared, “no animal should die for my sake,” and he became a vegetarian. Now we are united on the dietary front as a family, and I am beyond thrilled.
My ultimate goal is to become a vegan, but in the meantime, my family buys organic, hormone free milk, organic cage free eggs, and organic cheeses from local, responsibly tended farms. We give our daughter nutritional supplements to ensure she receives all of the nutrients she needs, and we are certain she is not suffering in the slightest by not eating meat.
Raising a Healthy Vegan Eco-Tot by Jill Fehrenbacher
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you probably realize that meat consumption and the meat industry is bad for the planet — as it contributes to the decimation of the rain forest, famine and malnutrition around the world, it takes much more energy to produce than plant foods, and is responsible for 18% of the world’s greenhouse gas emissions. Despite the growing awareness of these facts, many veggie-friendly, eco-conscious people are still scared of the word “vegan” — equating it with militantism, PETA rallies, and a strict, boring, bland diet of carrots and sprouts. As a card-carrying vegan mama, raising a vegan kid, I hope I can convince you otherwise; this is a great, easy way to live your life and a super-healthy way to raise a child!
The Best Foods to Feed a Vegan Tot
When I gave birth to my son, I did question whether or not I wanted to raise him vegan — mainly because I wasn’t sure if he was going to get all the nutrition he needed from a vegan diet. Articles and books like Nina Planck’s ‘Death by Veganism‘ have spread misinformation about vegan parenting and made it seem like raising your child vegan is an irresponsible thing to do. There is nothing further from the truth. In reality, a growing child can get all the nutrition he needs from a vegan diet – but of course, parents have to be careful and conscious of what their child eats. Veganism forces parents to understand proper nutrition and to take care about fostering a balanced diet. It doesn’t work well with lazy parenting. It should be pretty obvious to most rational people that a vegan child is not going to thrive on a diet which consists solely of soy milk and apple-juice. Growing tots need plenty of protein, iron, vitamins, healthy fats and AHA/DHA for growth and proper brain development. The best way to do this as a vegan is to breastfeed your child for as long as possible and make sure that the solid food they eat consists of whole, unprocessed, healthy-fat, vitamin-rich and protein-rich plant foods such as avocados, bananas, beans, leafy greens, tree nuts (not peanuts) and coconut.
“Got Milk?” No…
When I first told my parents and pediatrician that we were raising my son vegan, many of them seemed shocked — and mainly about the idea of not giving cow milk to a human infant. Growing up in the dairy-lobbied “Got Milk” culture of the 1980’s, I grew up believing that cow’s milk was the healthiest and best thing out there for growing kids, and I never thought to question the wisdom of this until I was older. Of course, I breastfed my son (yes, breastfeeding is vegan), but like many moms who encounter challenges with nursing, I also had to supplement my baby’s diet with formula at an early age to make sure he got enough nutrition. We did try a cow’s milk formula at the beginning, but when my son developed eczema, reflux and seemed to spit up excessively, we switched to a soy formula and all these problems cleared up. This experience, together with copious research, convinced me of what my gut had told me all along: human milk is best for human babies and cow’s milk is best for baby cows. Makes sense right? This is what nature intended…
Giving Your Child a Great Start on a Vegan Diet
Now that my son is a rambunctious toddler with boundless energy, I’m convinced that raising him vegan is the way to go. Of course he will be free to make his own choices about food when he gets older, but I am convinced that it is a parent’s responsibility to foster good health, shape developing taste-buds, and model healthy eating patterns for their child from a young age so that the child will be able to make responsible, informed, and healthy choices about food when they are older.
What Will the Future Hold?
So far the vegan thing has been pretty easy with a toddler: my son loves to eat tofu and vegetables and doesn’t yet have enough interaction with non-vegan kids to feel like he is missing out on anything. The one thing I am a little anxious about is this: what do we do when he hits birthday party age, and is surrounded by kids eating non-vegan cake and ice-cream? I don’t really have an answer for this quandary yet, but I’m guessing we’ll play it by ear and probably let him experiment with whatever non-vegan food he wants to eat so he doesn’t feel like he is being deprived. I don’t want to be overly strict and risk raising a kid who rebels against his parents by becoming a meat-eater. I want my son to feel like he has choices with his diet, and I hope that after experimenting, he will eventually choose to commit to veganism himself when he is all grown up.